July 8, 2012 by mamacravings
The accidents. The triumphs. The laundry.
I get a lot of sympathetic pats on the backs and “Bless your heart” when I mention that we are knee deep into potty training. And goodness, I need it.
It’s messy and frustrating. It is more time consuming than cluster feeding during a growth spurt. ..and this is only our second day.
Potty training certainly isn’t glamorous.
It is the biggest mountain Eli has yet to climb. We have to persist through frustration. We have to accept mistakes. We have to celebrate every victory.
Yesterday afternoon, He took my face into his baby fingers and said, “P’wease, Mama. P’wease get my biacher.”
I knew he was tired of the timer and of the messes and of the running to the potty just to sit. I was tired of it too. For a moment, I wondered if it was worth it, if we should just wait until he is a bit older.
I sighed and held his hands. His little feet kicked at his Elmo potty chair. He looked defeated. I felt like we were failing.
I waited a moment to speak. I thought of what I really wanted for Eli to gain during potty training. What did I crave for him to seek when he is feeling frustrated and defeated?
I knew a lot of what I would say wouldn’t make sense. But honestly, I was saying it more to remind myself than for him to understand. All I needed him to understand now was that we were going to go through this together.
I sighed again. And I smiled. It was forced and weary.
“Eli, we are going to stick through this. I know it doesn’t seem worth it yet. But it will be. I am so proud of you for being persistent. I am so proud of you for listening to me and trusting me. You are already showing what a great big boy you are by doing these things. Don’t give up on this yet.”
The corners of his lips turned up slightly. “Deal. No more biachers,” he sighed. Sometimes I wonder if he understands everything I say.
Yesterday was tough. Today has been tough. Tomorrow will hopefully be a bit easier. Whether it is or not it is, we will work persistently and pursue our goals diligently.
We’ll conquer this Elmo potty. It’s only the beginning of our new adventure.