August 22, 2016 by CassieCravings
My husband and I are so excited to be having another boy! We are equally excited to celebrate the news with those around us. Every chance I get, I tell people that we’re having a boy. The response has been overwhelmingly joyous and sometimes a bit odd. Those comments have left us laughing at…well, how people can say some really odd things.
Here are some of the more frequent and oddest comments and questions we have received.
1. Are you disappointed?
Gender disappointment is very real. I honestly didn’t have a preference to the sex of the baby. However, it’s best to skip this question in case a family is trying to wrap their head around disappointment. This has been the only question that made me cringe a bit, not for my personal experience, but thinking of mamas who are bummed about the gender.
2. Well, I guess you’ll just have to try again.
This comment has only been made by people who don’t know our story, and that’s completely fair. I certainly don’t expect others to know that we tried for 4 years for this baby or to know that this is my 8th pregnancy. There isn’t any “just” in our trying. When hearing this, I just move the conversation forward. It is said in an upbeat, jovial tone, and I take it as such. That being said, inserting yourself into a family’s personal family planning is just a bit…well, personal.
3.Will you try for a girl?/Will you adopt a girl?
This comment has been really prevalent with loved ones and strangers alike. It goes back to the personal family planning thingy, but I find this one to be less odd. Perhaps because it’s a question instead of a statement, a curiosity instead of an opinion.
Our personal answer: I doubt that we will be trying again for a biological child. The fact that we have been able to conceive and then carry a child is nothing short of a miracle. It has been an incredible journey with a lot of celebration and a lot of anxiety. When we do adopt for our third child, we will not limit our options to one gender. We will be thrilled with a girl or with another boy.
Announcing that we are having another boy has been very exciting and quite entertaining. We are so blessed to have such an outpouring of love for our family as we prepare to welcome our son into the world.
While this is a silly and lighthearted post, it’s always important to consider that our words have impact. There’s no stage in life quite like pregnancy that invites both loved ones and strangers to comment on your life.
Are you looking for some alternative comments? Here are 3 things to say to a family who found out that they’re having ANOTHER boy:
- What a blessing!
- X will make an amazing big brother!